avalon
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Registered: 08/31/09
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So Brian's been working with me on learning to "feel" rather than think so much. This has been daunting because I'm an insanely analytical person by nature.
Anyway, I'm finally learning to surrender to the feelings a lot better, but now I feel like my mind and body are completely at war with each other. Like one minute I'm analyzing the philosophical significance of Swiss cheese, and the next minute I just feel like crying for no reason at all.
This tug-of-war is really exhausting, and it's been going on for more than twenty-four hours now without any signs of letting up. I've tried grounding, but so far that's been a REALLY temporary fix.
Is there anything I can do to ease up all of this internal chaos?
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Kevin9679
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What I did was the first few weeks after my IC workshop, I really, really tried to let my body feel. Brian said, "First we have to strip off the anxiety." And I noticed there was alot of anxiety stored in my neck, which would actually tighten back up every hour. When this happened, I would just focus on relaxing my shoulders and neck, and giving myself a masssage even at my office.
And when my shoulders felt relaxed, instead of thinking I just focused on how my body felt. I didn't let my mind wander. I would actually be sitting on the train, and feeling how my shirt felt on my skin, and how my hands were warm when pressed against each other. I didn't thinking about approaching at all. All I paid attention to was my own body. I humbly believe that before you can "own" your space, first you have to be fully aware of your own body.
And when you can really feel with your body, that's when you can let your emotions (like your need to cry) float to the surface, and then you can slowly let them all go. And it will feel awesome, liberating when you finally let them go.
But yeah. Just keep it up.
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dagooch213
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EricS
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Yes, you could take the Landmark Forum. That would help a lot. |
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Robbie
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Not sure how the landmark forum is gonna do anything for what Avalon is going through, so please expand on this Eric if you wish.
My advice is to just sit with it. You posted this a while ago so I'm curious if you are still experiencing this emotional roller coaster?
Either way, our emotions and feelings are often reverse wired internally, so what feels like shit is often just the consciousness coming back into your body where the was none before. You've avoided feelings your whole life by escaping into your analytical mind so naturally feeling is going to feel strange and bad for a while. Just realize that this is part of the growth process. The shittier you feel for a while, the better!
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EricS
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Sure.
From personal experience the Landmark Forum got me to see things for what they were -- especially how my mind operated and my feelings. My mind plays tug-of-war with me all the time. After doing the Landmark Forum, it still does, it just doesn't have anymore significance on my effectiveness in situations with girls no more than the sky is blue. And when something does happen that does turn off the girl, I'm able to come from a place of nothing and start fresh.
Not much in my mind has changed but I don't need exercises to work around what I'm dealing with to fix or make better what's ever there. I just am able to be in the situation no matter what my mind does and my mind is a pretty turbulent place.
so certainly the forum has made me a lot more effective of dealing with tug-of-war in my mind. |
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